Summoning the Anima

This project restarted in March in a time of lockdown and grief. Deaths were accelerating globally and we had no idea where the Coronavirus would take us. The isolation of the moment seemed unbearable. How would we survive not just days, but weeks of this? How will we live without sports and new movies to … Continue reading Summoning the Anima

Amor Fati, Reconsidered

Aug. 12 Update -- Unlike some other posts I have reviewed and for the most part walked away from, I like the philosophical approach taken here, but I'm really uncomfortable with the therapy examples I've provided. I think my analysis of Amor Fati and its various weaknesses is sound and looking for an alternative or … Continue reading Amor Fati, Reconsidered

Habits and Rediscovering the Old

I felt an opposing tug this morning -- I wanted to post something on the site just to move yesterday's post down on the page. There's nothing wrong with it, I just felt it retouched some old ground and I wanted to venture somewhere new. At the same time, I didn't really feel like delving … Continue reading Habits and Rediscovering the Old

Diminishing Returns

Yesterday I promised to devote today's essay to my reflections on fatherhood. Today it seems laborious and also too reminiscent of Bill Cosby's 1980s-era huckerism about what a great dad and therefore person he was. Maybe he was a great real life dad, I have no idea. But he still drugged and raped women, so … Continue reading Diminishing Returns

Father’s Day Weekend: Stepfather Edition

I’ve decided to devote this weekend’s three Montaigne Project posts to reflections on fatherhood. Tomorrow I’ll focus on my own experiences as a father and Sunday I’ll try to take that huge, baffling story of relationship with my dad. But today, I thought it would be worthwhile to write about someone who I rarely write … Continue reading Father’s Day Weekend: Stepfather Edition

Fetch the Bolt Cutters

Sometimes an album can catch the global mood in an almost spooky way. Last year, Lana Del Rey perfectly captured the sense of a world drifting towards catastrophe, and urged us to overlook all of our flaws and treasure each other before the crash. It was beautiful right through the early days of COVID, but … Continue reading Fetch the Bolt Cutters

Is a Little Guilt a Healthy Part of Grieving?

It can seem cruel to pile on a form of self blaming to a grieving process. Loss alone is difficult enough without a sense of personal responsibility for handling some part of an important relationship better in some way. But I believe that some self-reflective guilt can be really important in processing loss, because it … Continue reading Is a Little Guilt a Healthy Part of Grieving?